Monday, March 25, 2019

Packing Made Easy!


Since moving to El Paso, we have done more traveling than ever, thanks to my daughter’s all-star cheer team.  My least favorite part about traveling is the packing and unpacking.  We recently attended the largest competition we’ve ever been to - NCA Nationals in Dallas, TX.  



I received these Eat Smart 3 Piece Packing Cubes to review just in time for our trip.  



It was so nice to only have to take one suitcase, and to easily pull out the cubes to unpack.  My daughter used black, and I used pink, so it was easy to grab the cubes out, hand my daughter hers to unpack, and then to be able to put the suitcase away immediately upon arrival to the hotel. 



Let me just say that NCA was like no other competition that I have ever experienced in my life.  Day 1 was AMAZING!  Although my daughter’s team did not perform at their best, the excitement on my daughter’s face as she watched her dream team perform in person was something that I’ll never forget.  Most of these teams we have only ever gotten to see online.  Seeing them in person is a whole other exciting world.  We took it all in and watched as many teams as we could.  It was also pretty cool to hear that she was at warm-ups with cheerleaders from big teams that she’s been following on social media and looks up to.  If you know anything about cheer, you can imagine how exciting it was to look up and seeing Angel Rice sitting right next to us in the Arena.  I can’t even begin to describe how amazing the day was.


Day 2 was not as great for us.  We had a major fall during the routine, and it just so happened to be my daughter’s stunt group that came down.  Although they had to replace her base 2 weeks prior due to her base injuring her hand, and although my daughter suffered a concussion which affected her balance just a week prior, she felt like she was to blame and took it hard.  Let me just say that it is the hardest thing in the world to see your child beating themselves up about something that is out of anyone’s control.  We honestly couldn’t get out of there fast enough…..that is after waiting over an hour in line to get photos all the while hangry.  Luckily, our flight was the same day, so we didn’t have to stick around for too long.


After being up bright and early for the competition, then flying home and getting home late at night, the last thing we wanted to do was unpack.  Especially since we had work and school the next day.  However, we had to get our suitcases out of the way before getting to bed, so thankfully it was easy enough to pull our packing cubes out and put them aside to unpack for the next day.  It was great to be able to just give my daughter her cubes and not have to worry about having clothes laying all over.  It was also nice to be able to use the cubes to separate the clean clothes from the dirty clothes.  We just pulled out the cubes and dumped the rest in the dirty laundry.  I can’t recommend these packing cubes enough, and I will likely be purchasing 2 more sets for my son and my husband as we get ready to move once again this summer.   They’ll be perfect for our road trip from Texas to Pennsylvania.  3 dogs means we’ll be stopping over night a few times, so being able to separate each trip into the cubes will be so much better than having to bring in several suitcases for one night of travel.

If you have any travel plans coming up, I highly recommend ordering the Eat Smart 3 Piece Packing Cubes to help make your trip a lot less stressful!


Friday, November 16, 2018

Still Can't Believe It....



It’s been a little over a month since you’ve been gone…..and it’s taken me a long time to bring myself to write this.  Some days, I still can’t believe it.  I look down under my desk and expect to see you laying in your bed there.  Even moving to a different state hasn’t helped make things any easier.  I want to remember all of the happy times we had together over 10 ½ years, but instead, I keep thinking about everything that I could have, should have done.  All of the times that you were begging to sit on my lap, but I was in the middle of something for work and I was trying to focus, so I told you to go lay down.  The times I pushed you out of the way to get that perfect yoga picture…..the times that I bought your brothers new toys and didn’t get you a stuffed animal that I knew you would love, because your brothers would chew it up right away. 

You’ve always had a bit of a cough. When we first brought you home, you had kennel cough.  Then awhile later, you would cough again on occasion.  We brought up your cough to several different vets over the years, and they all said that it was normal for a small dog like you, and that if it gets worse, to let them know.  Over the past year or two, it had gotten worse.  And we mentioned it to the vet, but again, it was pretty much brushed off.  It was mainly after you drank water, you would have a coughing fit.  I don’t know if we got caught up with the death of Rocks, having a new puppy, etc. and just didn’t notice how bad it had gotten?  Or if I was just so used to being with you 24/7, that it seemed normal to me?  I don’t know….but I will forever regret not pushing the issue. 

It was Thursday, May 10th…..your brother, Sarge, is obsessed with bunnies, and we liked to get him excited about them when we would see them out the window.  I saw a bunny out the window and called Sarge over.  Sarge started going crazy, and so did you.  You started barking like crazy and were reaching for me to pick you up.  I picked you up and showed you the bunny through the window.  I let you and your brothers go outside……all 3 of you were excited and ran like crazy down the deck stairs.  I followed you out, as I had been for a couple of months due to birds trying to make you their dinner.  I didn’t trust you being outside by yourself anymore, as we had too many close calls.  I now wonder if they knew you were sick, and that’s why they were after you?  Anyway, I was following you all outside, and as I was turning to go down the deck stairs, I heard a thump and heard you yell.  I asked “Are you okay?”, and you turned around and came back up the stairs back to me.  I thought you hit your head, but from where I was at the time, you were out of my site, and I couldn’t see.  I picked you up and loved on you….you seemed to be ok after a minute or so, so I carried you into the grass to use the bathroom.  You peed, then as soon as you were done, you just froze…..you stared at me, not even moving out of your squatting position, and your head went back and you started shaking.  I ran to you and picked you up.  I rushed into the house and called your dad.  Luckily, he didn’t work out that morning, so he had just left for work.  He came back home to grab us and take us to the vet.  You stopped shaking, and I sat you down to see if you were ok.  You went and sat under my desk and just stared at me.  That in itself wasn’t normal, as you never sat on the hardwood floor because of your hip surgery.  You always stood or laid down.  I called for you to come to me, because I feared you had a concussion and wanted to see how you walked.  You would walk out half way towards me, then turn around and go back and sit under my desk.  If anyone has ever been around the two of us, they know that’s not normal.  You were always by my side.  I don’t think I used the bathroom at home alone more than a few times in 10 years to be honest.  You were my shadow…my little cuddle bug….my lap dog while I worked.  I called you a couple of more times, and the same thing….you’d start to walk to me, then turn back.  I was sure you had a concussion.  Your dad came home and we rushed you to the vet.  We explained what happened, and the vet had you walk around.  You were walking just fine at that time.  But you were panting like crazy.  Your panting had gotten pretty bad over the past few weeks.  I should have known that meant you were in pain, but I assumed you were just hot (you needed a haircut, so I thought it made you hotter than normal).  The vet listened to your heart and asked if we knew you had a heart murmer.  The answer was no….we were never told that you had a heart murmer.  You were actually at the vet a few weeks earlier for a heartworm test, and we weren’t told that you had it then.  The vet looked concerned and asked if he could take xrays of your chest.  He discovered that you had an enlarged heart.  I didn’t realize how serious that was until after I researched (Google) when I got home.  He explained that you would need to have a blood test done to determine what kind of medication you could be on, but he also wanted you to have an echocardiogram done to make sure you were put on the exact right meds.  He did not seem to think you had a concussion.  He was sure that you had an episode with your heart, and that’s what caused you to fall down the stairs.  So basically, it happened because I thought it would be fun to get you and your brothers excited over a bunny…….no one has said that, but it’s quite obvious to me.

Your bloodwork came back on the following Monday, and the vet said that your heart condition was confirmed.  He wanted me to write down the number for the heart specialist in MD, but we were at cheer and I didn’t have anything to write it down.  That night, we ended up getting home really late due to your sister injuring her knee at cheer.  I called the vet the next morning to get the number for the specialist.  I then called the specialist, and they had an appointment available Wednesday morning, but it was at a location that was farther than the one I planned on booking at.  I didn’t book it at that time.  I was going to talk to your dad and see what he wanted to do.  We were considering asking the doctor to put you on the meds he spoke about, as he said that he was pretty confident they were the ones the specialist would put you on.  Then we were going to see about getting you to a specialist when we got to Texas………

You had a grooming appointment that morning (Tuesday).  I was hoping you would get some relief and not be so hot.  When dad picked you up, though, you were panting even more than you were before.  You just didn’t look right.  Your eyes were so big, and a little pussy.  You seemed to pant heavier the more excited you were.  I told myself that I was going to take you along to your grandma’s for dinner that night, because I wanted to keep an eye on you.  However, I changed my mind at the last minute, because you started getting way too overly excited.  I didn’t think it would be good for you to take you.  I will forever regret that decision, as it would have been my last night with you.  And I chose to leave you at home…….

When we got home that night, we sat down for a little and you were still panting/breathing heavier than usual.  I was regretting taking you to the groomer that day, because I guess I didn’t realize that the excitement would be too much for your little heart.  Another thing that I will regret for the rest of my life.  At bed time, we did the usual routine. We let you and your brothers out, then you came in and sat for your treats.  You sat there, ready for it, but when I put it in your mouth, you dropped it.  It was like you couldn’t really chew.  I broke it into smaller pieces and fed it to you that way.  We went up to bed and I tried giving you your final treat like we do every night, but you didn’t want it.  I gave it to your brothers.  I took you into the bathroom with me as I got ready, and I remember you were panting so heavily.  I put some water in a dixie cup, and you drank it up like crazy.  Then we went to bed…..

Around 1:30 AM, you woke me up by scratching the bed.  You did this a lot in the middle of the night, and I would pick you up and put you in bed with us, half asleep.  Although this time, you were panting uncontrollably, trying so hard to get comfortable and lay down…..It must have hurt too bad to do so.  You would lay down, then sit right back up and pace on the bed.  Then try laying down again and continue to repeat the cycle.  I remember sleepily trying to help you and not knowing what to do.  I thought you were hot and maybe wanted on the floor.  I turned on the light on my Fitbit to see your sweet, big eyes looking at me, panting heavily, and just staring at me.  I picked you up again, and you did the same thing as before – try to lay down, but not be able to do so comfortably.  So, I would put you back down and again, you would just stand next to the bed and look at me and pant.  I wonder what you were thinking at that time?  If you knew this was it and that you were leaving me?  If you were relying on me to be able to help you feel better?  Daddy tried taking you outside to see if you needed to use the bathroom.  You went out and peed like any other normal day.  He tried to give you water, but you didn’t want any.  He brought you back to bed.  It seemed that you just wanted to lay on me, but your pain wouldn’t let you.  I should have known.  I should have gotten myself out of bed and took you to the Emergency Vet.  But I didn’t.  I thought you were just overly hot and was planning on calling the vet in the morning to see if we could start you on your medicine.  After a couple of hours, you finally laid down on my legs and went to sleep.  Then I too fell back asleep. 
When my alarm went off, I reset it for 30 minutes later, due to being exhausted from being up most of the night.  Those extra 30 minutes of sleep will haunt me for the rest of my life.  When I woke up, you were no longer in bed with us.  I went into the bathroom to change, and you didn’t follow me in.  I figured you were just exhausted yourself.  I opened the bathroom door after getting ready, and you still didn’t come out from under the bed.  I had a horrible feeling in my gut, but I couldn’t bring myself to look under the bed.  I was still a little hopeful that you were just tired.  But then daddy opened the bedroom door to let you and your brothers out and feed you.  You still didn’t come out from under the bed.  We called your name….yet you still didn’t come.  Again, I couldn’t bring myself to look.  As soon as I heard your dad’s sigh, I knew.  I didn’t want to believe it, but I knew.  You were gone.  He pulled you out from under the bed, and your stiff body was still warm to the touch.  If I hadn’t slept that extra 30 minutes, I likely would have been able to hold you as you took your last breath. Instead, you died alone.  Did you prefer that?  Is that why you jumped down?  Or did you try to wake me, and I just slept?  I remember screaming no, and that I was so sorry….over and over and over again.  And to this day, I am still SO sorry.  If I could go back in time, I would have insisted that you be put on heart medication until we could get an appointment for the echocardiogram.  Would it have saved you?  I don’t know…but at least I would have known that I tried SOMETHING.  Instead, I let you die.  I let you down. 

Your dad brought your little bed upstairs and laid you in it as we said goodbye.  I laid with you for quite some time upstairs.  Then we decided to take you downstairs to let your brothers say goodbye.  Buddy didn’t seem to really get it, but Sarge – he got it.  He looked so sad.  He just kept sniffing you.  It still amazes me how he KNEW and how sad he was.  He wouldn’t eat right for a few weeks after you passed.  The only way we could get him to eat now is to mix wet food with his dry food.  I guess he wasn’t thrilled to not have your bowl of wet food to lick anymore.  Even just now, I pulled out your collar and had him smell it, and his whole demeanor changed.  He looked sad again.  He sure did love you.  We all loved you. 

And me, I am struggling.  I thought things would get a little easier after we moved, as I wouldn’t have so many memories sneak up on me being in our house.  The move distracted me for a few days, but now, as we get into our new normal, it’s hitting once again that you aren’t here.  You were supposed to be here.  Your name is in our lease…..you have been all over with us – even Hawaii.  I can be fine, and then wham, an image of you pops into my head.  Then I lose it.  I feel so bad for your dad and brother and sister for having to see me just lose all control.  I was up for hours last night, just thinking about you.  Thinking about all of the things that I did wrong, the things that I should have done.  You loved me more than anything.  And although I know I loved you like you were my child, I wonder if you knew that? 


It's been six months now, and I have not yet been able to bring myself to post this.  While the gut-wrenching cries are now gone, I still rarely go a day without crying because I miss you so much.  Images of that night just pop into my head at random times, and I am struck with grief and guilt all over again.  I wish I would have got out of bed and held you when you took your last breath.  I wish I would have realized that your heart couldn’t handle the groomer, and that I would have canceled your appointment.  I wish I wouldn’t have waited to go for a run until after you got home.  And I wish I would have stayed home with you on your last night, instead of spending the evening with people that could honestly care less about me.  If I had known that it was your last day on earth, I would have done so much differently.  I know I can’t go back in time.  But I can’t seem to shake the guilt.  Every time Max wakes us up at night, I get instant anxiety that won’t go away.  If he crawls under the bed, especially in the spot where we found you, it takes me back to that night and my heart just breaks all over again.  I can’t take Max to the groomer, because I’m afraid that something will happen to him.  So instead, I pay extra to have someone come to us.  Night time is usually the hardest. I could be laying in bed, thinking about nothing really and trying to go to sleep.  Suddenly, your poor sweet face appears in my head from your last night with us.  Those big eyes, looking up at me from the side of the bed, and you panting so heavily.  Why did I think that you would be fine, and we’d be able to take you to the vet the next morning to get you on medication?  Why didn’t I realize that the fact that you couldn’t get comfortable meant that you were in severe pain?  Why does my last memory of you have to be that horrible night?  I thought you had finally gotten comfortable when you laid down on me and fell asleep.  I thought you were just overly hot because it was hot in the bedroom. 

People may not understand my grief.  They may think that you were “just a dog”.  But that couldn’t be further from the truth.  You were my best friend for over 10 years.  You were literally by my side every day for 10 years, with the exception of trips we took, and the few weeks when we were getting settled into Hawaii before you were shipped to us.  I was a stay at home mom or worked from home all those years except for the few months I worked part-time at the school.  I rarely used the bathroom without you laying on the floor next to me.  You wanted nothing more than to be with me.  Sitting with me, having me pick you up and hold you when I was standing.  The bond we shared was so special.  It’s so hard to have that bond just ripped away, especially at a time when I needed you the most…when we had to yet pack up and do another move, far away from family.  It made the move so much harder, because YOU were my comfort.  There was nothing I loved more than sitting on the couch, watching tv with you laying by my side.  That was my way of winding down each day.  I couldn’t get comfortable for weeks after you passed.  I didn’t want to sit down and relax, because it wasn’t the same without you next to me.  It’s still not the same without you next to me. 

I’m so sorry that I let you down.  That I didn’t realize how sick you were, and that I didn’t hold you and comfort you as you took your last breath.  I don’t know that I’ll ever forgive myself.  I’m so sorry………..I can only hope that you knew how much I loved you, and that you are now resting in peace.  Pain free and chasing all the squirrels you want.





Thursday, October 4, 2018

A YEAR OF CHANGES


A YEAR OF CHANGES

Spending Labor Day at Elephant Butte Lake with my family.
Wearing PrAna Cozy Up Sweatshirt and Cozy Up Pants

Change….we all go through changes in life.  Some good, some not so good.  But if you’re like me and suffer from anxiety, even good changes can be stressful.  I am a very routine-orientated person, so anything out of the norm causes my anxiety to skyrocket. 

If you read my last blog post, or if you follow me on Instagram or Facebook, you already know that 2018 has definitely been a year of changes for myself and my family.  Here's a recap:  My husband was planning on retiring from the Army next year, and we thought we were settled for good in our home in Pennsylvania.  It turned out that the Army decided it wasn’t done with my husband yet.  He was selected for Sergeant Major on his first look – something we didn’t expect at all.  While this is amazing, and really should not have surprised me at all (because my husband is an outstanding soldier), it unfortunately meant that we had to give up everything that we had planned for our future.  
  • Growing old in our house on Village Square Drive. 
  • My husband finding a job at the base he was stationed at after retirement. 
  • Watching our children graduate from the same high school we graduated from.
  • Living near family to enjoy holidays and other get-togethers. 

When a soldier is selected to be a Sergeant Major, he/she is required to attend a year of school in El Paso, TX before being promoted.  If my husband turned down the promotion, he would have been forced out of the Army without receiving any retirement benefits.  After serving 18+ years in the Army, there’s no way we would consider just cutting our losses.  Unfortunately, that meant that we had to uproot our family across the country.  My son is attending a new school his junior year and will unfortunately need to attend another new school his senior year.  We had to sell our “forever” home, and we had to say goodbye to the future we thought we were going to have.

Less than a month before we moved, my sweet little toy poodle, Teddy, passed away unexpectedly.  He was my little sidekick/shadow for 10 years.  He sat on my lap as I worked all day, and when I was watching tv, he would be right next to me.  I couldn’t even use the bathroom without him following me and laying down next to me.  So my heart was/is broken.  I thought we would be making this huge move together (as we have done several times before) but instead, he was gone – just like that.  I started to write a blog about him, but it’s been 4 months in the making.  I just can’t bring myself to finish it, it still hurts that bad.


We ended up getting another toy poodle 2 weeks before we moved.  A puppy….to drive cross-country with….yes, we’re crazy.  I thought getting him would help ease my pain, but it didn’t.  I love him to pieces and can’t imagine my life without him, but nothing in this world could take away the pain I feel after losing my Teddy.


Just a few weeks after arriving in El Paso, my grandmother had a stroke and eventually passed away.  I can’t explain how awful it is to be away from your family at a time like that.  I wanted nothing more than to be there for my mom, but of course, flights were 3 times as much as normal during that time of year, and I couldn’t make it happen. 



I’ve been having a major pity party for myself due to all of the negativity and changes that have happened over the past few months.  But then, I was given the opportunity to be a part of PrAna’s campaign – Clothing for Positive Change.  And it got me thinking – yes, there have been some horrible, awful changes over the past 4 months.  But there have also been some really great changes, and it’s those changes that I need to focus on.

PrAna Cozy Up Zip Up Jacket
If we didn't move, we would have never
experienced our Labor Day Trip!  Outfit:
PrAna Cozy Up Sweatshirt and Cozy Up Pants
For one, the selling of our house went smoother than we could have ever imagined.  We made some decent money which allowed us to pay off our credit cards and have a savings to fall back on (which will likely be blown on cheer expenses this year).  We also survived a week-long trip from PA to TX (with a puppy and a girl on crutches) and got to experience places we never would have if it weren’t for this move. 

My daughter has settled into her new cheer gym, and both kids seem to be settled into their new schools.  This cheer season is also going to be a whole new world for us.  Lots of travel, and all by plane.  Not to mention that it will likely just be me and my daughter traveling without my husband and son.  Again – not great for the anxiety, but we’ll make it through.  I’m actually really excited for this, because we will get to go explore some more places we’ve never been, and we get to attend competitions that will likely be a once in a lifetime opportunity. 

While I lost my best friend (Teddy), I wouldn’t have Max (my new puppy) in my life if Teddy was still here.  Everything happens for a reason, and Teddy was meant to be in my life for the exact amount of time that he was.  He showed me unconditional love.  And I loved him just the same.  But Max was meant to come into my life when he did.  While I can’t say I understand why Teddy was taken so suddenly, I keep reminding myself that Max needed us – and we needed him.

I am learning, albeit slowly, that trying to find a positive out of a negative not only helps me to feel more blessed on a regular basis, but it helps to ease my anxiety tremendously.  Because of this, I find myself wanting to continue to seek out even more positive changes.
Counting my blessings on a cooler El Paso Day in my
PrAna Cozy Up T-Shirt and Cozy Up Pant
I have learned that not only should I focus on the positives of the changes that have come with this move, but I also need to focus on how I can change other parts of my life for the better.  Making positive changes will only help me to be a better person, which in turn, will make me feel better.  

Here are just a few things that I think will help:
Playing with my boys in my
PrAna Cozy Up T-shirt
  1. Start using less plastic by using my refillable water bottles more in place of plastic water bottles. 
  2. Enjoy nature more instead of sitting inside the house all day.  I can do this by taking breaks throughout the day (I work from home full-time), even if it’s just for a 5-minute walk, or a 5-minute play in the backyard with my dogs. 
  3. I plan to be more mindful of what I put into my body (I recently discovered how horrible the ingredients were in my go-to protein shake).  My husband and I both lost weight within a week of ditching the shake (and no, it was not muscle loss).  I switched to a different one and have also limited how often I drink it.  I tend to eat a lot of protein, so the extra shake isn’t always necessary.  I have made huge changes in my diet over the past 7 years, and I know that by continuing on that path, it will only make me feel better.
  4. Thanks to PrAna, I can be more mindful of what I put ON my body.  I had no idea how my clothing choices could have a negative or positive effect on the environment.  By joining PrAna’s Sustainability Movement, I am helping to reduce the impact on our environment by purchasing their organic cotton and hemp grown clothing.   I have been wearing PrAna clothing for a couple of years, and I honestly don’t have any other clothing that fits better or feels more comfortable.  I was lucky enough to be sent their Cozy Up line, and I am obsessed.  The sweatshirts,pants, and t-shirt are soft and unbelievably comfortable.  I don’t know about you, but soft, comfortable sweats are a staple in my Fall and Winter wardrobe.  Especially since I work from home and have the option to dress as comfortably as I want to.  Are you looking to make some positive changes? Reconsider where your clothing comes from, and take advantage of a 25% off discount at www.prana.com by using the code SBEAprAna25.  
  5. Walk to the gym instead of driving.  It’s less than a 10 minute walk from my house to the gym.  By choosing to walk, I am not only helping myself, but I will be helping the environment as well by reducing pollution.  Sounds like a win win!
  6. PrAna Cozy Up Zip Up Jacket
  7. I have really been trying to focus on talking myself out of an anxiety attack.  I’m learning to ask myself if 1. Will it kill me?  And 2. How likely is it that something bad will happen in this situation?  Usually, the answers are “No” and “Not likely”.  I am learning to point out to myself that the stress and worry over certain situations just isn’t necessary.  One of my major anxiety triggers is driving, usually in places that I’m not familiar with.  I am learning to talk myself down by telling myself that I have my navigation on my phone, and that the worst thing that will happen is that I will have to reroute if I take a wrong turn.  While it will be annoying, it is not the end of the world, and I most certainly will not die from it.  I recently had to do this when driving my son to the airport for the first time.  Believe it or not, it actually helped.  There was, however, no talking myself down when he was on a plane by himself.  I just had to ride that anxiety attack out…… 

Regardless of any changes that I make, I know that I will have days that will be hard over the next 8 months.  And again, over the next few years as we continue to have to uproot. But by doing my part to try my best to be better, I hope it will make me a happier, healthier person and will allow me to see that there is beauty in all things.  Sometimes, I just may need to dig a little deeper to find it.


Having some fun in my PrAna Cozy Up Zip Up Jacket


Being able to have some arm balance play is a major plus
with my PrAna Cozy Up T-Shirt and Cozy Up Pant

I love how PrAna packages their clothing!
PrAna Cozy Up Zip Up Jacket























Disclaimer:  This post is sponsored by prAna.  All opinions are my own.

Thursday, March 8, 2018

My Strength.....




Throughout my husband’s military career, I have been told that I am strong more times than I can count.  Yet each time, I cringe when I hear that.  I have been extremely emotional since before I can remember.  I cry very easily, and I take the smallest things to heart.  While I’m sure it wasn’t intentional, growing up I was made to think that crying was a bad thing.  I got yelled at a lot for crying.  It got to the point where I would feel guilty when the tears would come and yet, I couldn’t control them.  I still feel that guilt to this day.  Because of it, I had convinced myself that I am weak.  Yet all of these people kept telling me that I am strong.  Why?  Because I’m a military wife?  Because I have had to spend birthdays, anniversaries, Holidays, etc. without my love physically beside me?  Sure, people may think that I’m strong because I get through those times.  In my eyes, there's not a choice. But they don’t always see the tears, or feel the gut-wrenching heartache, just wanting to be by his side.  They say I’m strong because we often have to pick up and move with little notice.  But they don’t see the stress, depression, and anxiety…the daily tears behind closed doors.  I often find myself saying that I am the weakest person I know.  That I am not a good example for my children, because I can’t control my tears, or the anxiety attacks in their presence.  That I am weak because I don’t hide my pain from my husband or other loved ones.  I have felt weak for so long.  Never more so than the past few months.  

My family’s lives have been turned upside down in the past few months.  While my children have been military brats their entire lives and have never had an issue when having to pick up and move…this time is different.  My husband is a year and half away from where he could retire.  We thought we were done moving.  We bought a house.  The first house that has truly felt like home for me and my family.  We are living back home where we first fell in love – at the same age that our son is now.  Our kids are going to the same schools we went to.  Our families are all living around the same area as us.  We have been here for 4 years.  That is the longest time my family has ever been in one place.  My son has his first love.  My daughter is in an all-star cheer gym that she loves.  My children's friends, and my friends, have become a part of my family.  

But my husband, being the outstanding soldier that he is, was selected for promotion.  This means that our “plans” of staying where we are have changed.  We have to move to Texas in June for him to attend SGM Academy. Then we will be moving again a year later – to where, we won’t know until this time next year.  I am so incredibly proud of him.  And I support him and his career 100%.  But that doesn’t take away the fact that I am now grieving the life that we had:  Settling down.  Having our family close together. Not having to worry about my son wanting to move away to another state after he graduates.  Not having to worry about him having to go to 2 different schools his Junior and Senior years. Living in a house that fits our needs perfectly.  A house that we have made our home.  I know there is nothing that we can do to change it.  But it doesn’t make the fact that it’s happening any easier.  I have felt incredible guilt for crying to my husband about how much I don’t want to leave.  For making him feel like he’s doing something wrong, when that’s not the case.  He is an amazing soldier.  But more than that, he is an incredible father and husband.  Everything he does, he does for his family.  He somehow gives 100% to both his job and his family.  I really don’t know how he does it.  Yet, my tears make him feel like he is ruining my life.  And those tears make me feel weaker than ever.

When it comes down to it, I KNOW that I, and my family, will be ok. My tears are not because I feel like our lives are over.  My tears are because I am sad to have yet another chapter in our lives end. But I am now choosing to believe that my “weakness” is actually my “strength”.  I am showing my children that it’s ok to be sad.  I am being honest with my husband about how I truly feel instead of holding it all inside and having it come out in unhealthy ways later.  I am allowing the tears flow, because I know that at the end of a good cry, I will feel much better.  I pick myself up out of bed each morning and take myself to the gym, instead of just giving in to my depression and sadness.  

I have considered staying here until my son graduates.  I have considered seeing if family would allow him to stay here while I move with my husband and our daughter.  But in the end, I know that my home is with my husband and my kids – wherever that may be.  And it’s ok to grieve for the life that we thought we were supposed to live.  Showing emotion does not have to equal weakness.  I have lived a total of years apart from my husband throughout his military career.  Each time, I cried.  I had days that I was so sad I didn’t want to get out of bed.  But I DID.  Just like I know that the next few months are going to be SO hard for myself and my family.  But I also know that we will get through this. We have no other choice but to get through it.  My strength is my love for my family, and my determination to continue to keep going on with my life despite my depression wanting me to give up.  That is MY strength.  So, the next time someone tells me that I’m strong – I am determined to believe them.

Wednesday, October 4, 2017


Have you ever tried a product that you just KNEW you weren’t going to like?  I’ve got to be honest – that was my first thought when I received my first pair of AfterShokz Bone Conduction headphones.  I mean, they don’t have ear buds, so how in the heck was the quality of music going to be any good?  And there was no way they were going to stay on when I ran, I just knew it.  Especially during the summer when I’m sweating like crazy, or when running in the rain…..

When I first put on the AfterShokz Trekz Titanium’s, I could feel the vibration in my cheekbones.  Again, I just knew I wasn’t going to like them.  But literally seconds later, I no longer felt the vibrations.  Instead, I was listening to my music with better sound than I’ve ever had with any of my other headphones – AND I could still hear my daughter asking me questions.  Pretty cool.  But I still wasn’t buying that they were going to stay put for a run. 

I was actually REALLY nervous for my first time running with them. I HATE being uncomfortable on a run in any way.  I just knew it was going to be a horrible experience, because I was going to have to end up taking the headphones off and carrying them, which meant no music to get me through my miles.  Boy was I wrong.  Despite the fact that it was extremely hot and humid and I was dripping with sweat, my AfterShokz didn’t budge.  Not once.  I had one of the most enjoyable runs in a long time that day.  I felt so much safer knowing that I could still hear my surroundings, yet listen to my music at the same time. 

I must have a pretty small head, because even the Mini TrekzTitanium’s were a little big behind my head.  Because of that, I didn’t even attempt to use them during my yoga or gym sessions.  But then, I received the TrekzAir, AfterShokz’s newest creation.  I didn’t think they could really be that much different than the Trekz Titanium’s, but wow – I didn’t feel them at all when I went for my first run with them.  It’s like I was running with nothing on me, yet I was still hearing my music. They are equipped with a new lightweight titanium frame that wraps around the entire product, which makes it 30% lighter than the Trekz Titanium.  The Trekz Air also comes with a 6 hour battery life and is sweat resistant.  Since they felt so lightweight, I decided to give them a try with my yoga.  To my amazement, I couldn’t feel them and they didn’t get in the way at all, regardless of the stretch or pose I was doing.


I also wasn’t sure I’d like wearing the Trekz Air them in the gym, because I wasn’t sure they would block out enough of the background noise.  Despite my concerns, I decided to try them out while lifting.  I can now say that my old wireless earbuds have been fully replaced by my Aftershokz.  I have no issues with the background noise, and can actually block it out if I turn my headphones up loud enough.  But if someone says something to me in the gym, it’s nice to not have to pull my earbuds out to be able to hear them.  I really didn’t think that AfterShokz could improve much on the Trekz Titanium’s, but they blew it out of the water with the Trekz Air



Not only are the AfterShokz headphones great for a fitness fanatic like myself, but my house cleaner fell in love with them too – so much so that she bought a pair for herself AND her construction worker boyfriend.  She was getting startled several times a day due to her clients walking up behind her when she had her earbuds in.  I had her try mine out when she was here, and she was hooked.  She can now hear if her clients are coming up behind her or calling for her, yet she can still listen to her music and take calls when needed.  I personally also feel these would be great for a new parent, or parents of small children that love listening to music, but don’t want to wake their kids.  With AfterShokz headphones, you can hear your baby crying, or your toddler yelling for you, all while listening to your music.  Every single style they have is pretty amazing.  Whether you prefer wired or wireless, I think you’ll fall in love the second you wear them.  

If you want to see how great they are for yourself, you can read about each product and/or purchase them here.





Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Running for sanity....but safely!


Being a female runner who HATES the treadmill, I run outdoors as often as I can.  This includes on vacations and work trips, in places that I’m not really familiar with.  It can be a bit scary running alone in an unfamiliar location.  But in all reality, running my usual route on a regular occasion can be just as scary. I’m sure you’ve all heard the stories about women getting attacked, raped, and even murdered when running solo.  Most of the time, it happens in their own neighborhoods, on the same routes they run all the time.  Super scary.

I don’t always walk out the door afraid for my safety when going for a run – and I think that NOT thinking about it can actually be the most dangerous part of it all.  We get into a routine where we feel like we know our surroundings and start to feel safe.  But how do we know that someone isn’t watching our every move, and planning their attack?  It’s tough to think that we HAVE to think about these things, but we do.  Not only do we have to worry about being attacked by other humans, there are also animals that will not hesitate to bite if they feel threatened (thanks little Chihuahua for the tetanus shot)…..and of course, there’s always the concern of vehicles with drivers that aren’t paying attention, or even YOU not paying attention.  It’s so easy to get lost in your thoughts when running.  

There are a few things that I personally do to try and make my runs a bit safer that may be helpful to you:

1.    Use an app that tracks your runs live so that your friends and family can track you.  I personally subscribe to MapMyFitness, and it tracks my runs live.  My friends (mainly my husband), can track where I am throughout my run and will be able to see if I’ve stopped for any reason. 
2.    This goes with part one – Only accept “Friend requests” on apps like MapMyFitness from people that you know.  I had to go through and delete a bunch of people, because I realized that all of my friends can track me on my runs, and they can also see my exact running routes.  This is asking for trouble if you do not have your account private and allow anyone to be your friend.
3.    Run with someone else.  I personally can’t do this most days.  But when I can, I do.  Especially when I’m in a new place and am unfamiliar with the area.  I also bought a dog with the intention to eventually run with him.  He still has a year to go until he can run, but my hope is that someday he will be my running buddy.
4.    Carry mace.  I was bit by a Chihuahua that came up from behind me during one of my runs.  Without thinking, I ran into the middle of a busy road to get away and to avoid being bitten again.  If I ever would have imagined getting bit by a dog during a run, the last thing I thought I would do is run into the middle of the road.  But, apparently, I don’t think very well when being chased.  Luckily for me, there were no cars at the time.  I know carry mace with me each time I run, and the second I see a dog growling or barking at my, I flip the switch to get myself ready.  I will cry for days if I ever have to mace an animal, but I won’t hesitate to do it if I have to.
5.    Run with some type of identification.  I love my Road ID bracelet, which has all the info emergency services would need – name, emergency contacts, blood type, medications, etc.


6.    Be smart when it comes to running with music.  I personally feel like I have to run with music.  If I don’t, I struggle with my runs.  I have never been one to run with my music blasting.  But even having something in my ears, it plugged out any background noise, such as cars, or dogs running up behind me ready to attack…..so when I saw the AfterShokz TrekzTitanium headphones, I was so excited.  It has an open ear design, so there is nothing blocking or covering my ears.  They’re powered by bone conduction technology, so they sit on your cheekbones and emit sound through mini vibrations to your inner ear.  Sounds strange, right?  I thought so too.  But once I used them for the first time I was IN LOVE!  They stayed in place, which I wasn’t sure they’d be able to with as much as I sweat when I run, and I could hear the music perfectly, yet still hear traffic and barking dogs as well.  I can’t imagine that I’ll ever run without them again.  Check them out!  You can enter to win your own set by commenting on this post no later than July 18th.  I will enter your name into a random drawing and a winner will be chosen from there. If aren’t the winner and you choose to order from here, you will receive a free water bottle with your purchase. 
7.    And that leads me to my final safety tip – stay hydrated! I ALWAYS carry a water bottle with me during my summer runs.  The last thing I want is for my husband to see me stop moving via live tracking and have to come and find me passed out from dehydration and heat exhaustion J



Let's all keep running for our sanity - but do so safely!